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Move Past Your PastA Process for Freeing Your Life

Most Self-Help, Personal Growth, or Spirituality books speak of the influence of our Past in our current life. But, my Move Past Your Past specifically focuses on how to change your Past, to directly achieve desired, positive goals for your life journey. It is comprehensive, covering 70 pertinent topics, with an informational Appendix. Just a few of the topics are: Anger, Creating a New You, Fear, Letting Go, Forgiveness, Self-Sabotage, Ego-Drama, Listening, Judgment, Worthiness, Perceptions, Healing Past Pain and so many more useful topics to help you change. No real knowledge, or experience of Metaphysics or Spirituality is required, as the information/suggestions are clearly stated. The book Parts have three-four pages, rather than chapters, and does not have to be read in order. Each Part includes an Exercise for further practice to understand the processing steps, letting go or putting into use for the topic. Most exercises are related to deep breathing, visualizing, writing, or reviewing oneself. It was First published in 2009, I used it in workshops, presentations and classes for several years with good responses, which is why I decided to update and add to it. Happiness can be more than a momentary thing.

I believe there are only two emotions—love and fear. Other emotions and feelings are derivatives of them, with love being the powerful positive and fear the negative. I also believe the opposite of love is not hate, but apathy. Hate has emotions attached, but apathy is not caring—it’s the absence of emotions. And I believe love is more powerful than fear or hate, as it can overcome them when the love is honest. To reach a point of you being happy means to learn how to release—to let go of all your past stuff through steps in this book with exercises. While I will repeatedly say that change and everything else is a choice, most people won’t accept that. They rationalize or believe their obligations or whatever will not allow them to do so. But as you read through the seventy various directed parts and try some of the exercises, you will see how truly amazing being free from your past can be. This is not about organized religion; it’s my thirty years in spirituality. It’s found within a few religions, but no religion is within spirituality. It is considered the singular, personal connection to Mother/Father God/Universe-Source, since that power is within each individual to have and use as promised. This is about finding one’s own path for your destined journey.

Much of the information in this book has been from teachers, guides, or classes I’ve had, as well as life experiences of my past and my current life as a teacher/trainer. I have learned and believe that more than 90 percent of all our problems, unhappiness—even pain—comes from our past experiences. So it’s time to let it go, and I’ll show you how with examples and exercises.

You can use the shopping cart to order Move Past Your Past, the same as Choices, Changes & Friends. $25 autographed and delivered to you. If you are in the Dallas area, it can be hand-delivered, if you want. Contact me for more information:  apinsf@gmail.com 

In the radical 1970s, four-long-time, female friends – Beth, Connie, Michael and April – newly divorced with children – have no idea how their lives can change so quickly. These somewhat ordinary, Chicago suburbanite-housewives became willing participants in escapade sex, some drugs and more alcohol than needed. Their backgrounds give an idea of their need for independence. The U.S. was in quite an upheaval with protest marches of all types, but they were rarely vocal concerning the Viet Nam war, or the inequality of the sexes. They liked men, just not the ones they’d been married to, and though not fairy tale-dreamers, a little romance would be nice.

These ladies endured a much lesser-known problem: truly a case of suburban-blight from television-burnout and sexually-inept/non-attentive, emotionally-abusive husbands. So, the cure was thought to be a job – get out of the house to regain some knowledge of self – whoever that was. Being up to your ankles in Cheerios, with only conversations of three-syllable sentences did become monotonous and demeaning. But a job was not the solution, it was the beginning of real awareness that PTA meetings, and exciting trips to the emergency room for your children were no longer emotionally fulfilling enough, or satisfaction for a twenty-five-year old.

Told boredom was part of marriage, and to make the best of it, but when that was no longer working, the domino-affect began. Once Connie took the ‘giant-leap of divorce for womankind,’ Beth, then April soon followed. Michael’s was the ugliest, since President of the PTA, but pregnant by her lover. They knew divorce was not easy, or any guarantee of happiness, but also learned ‘winners risk,’ as they took the gamble. None of them ever had any real control over their lives before, but they certainly wanted to try. Then, if they failed or succeeded, those were their choices and changes, as they learned divorce was not the full answer. They tried to formulate the questions about what they did want from life, for themselves and to have a good relationship. Whatever that was.

The ladies experimented dating men, not acceptable before: tried some drugs, often drank too much, but also danced their cares away. With new male-attention, they grew more brazen and confident exploring the gamut of willing men for dalliance, clandestine, some bikers, then even a ménage à trois with a famous movie star for Connie and Beth. This empowered them more than they expected – laughing and learning. They also took college classes, started a house-cleaning service, then thought about their changes, as the friendships shifted. Dilemma and decisions of children-choices, a real career and the ‘biggie’ of remarriage came up, as years rolled by. A sense of humor, wiry satire in situations, and sarcasm handled whatever hit each one.

Life separated them, when Beth and April move out of State, and then Beth overseas – still they reunited frequently. They’re definitely changed-women twenty-plus years later, who have grown so much, in so many different ways. And yet, some things do not change – like how they support each other through difficulties that would tear weaker-women apart. At times, their history together alone was the foundation that kept them moving forward through life’s harshest realities – Connie’s son’s death, Michael’s cancer, April becoming a hoarder and Beth a corporate-workaholic. Still friends, they did change their lives, and encouraged many more women around them to do the same, sharing their experiences of the wild and crazy-times of their younger years that did help them learn from life.

Choices, Changes & Friends - 1970s After Divorce
Choices, Changes & Friends - 1970s After Divorce
Choices, Changes & Friends: 570 pages autographed delivered copy. Multiple copies can be delivered to the same address - or if in the Dallas area, contact for hand delivery
$25.00

Contact Alice at: apinsf@gmail.com

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